My grandma notices every tiny bit of weight I lose. Today she said I'm already half my size and that I shouldn't overdo it. Barely 4 kilos, everyone. The more I lose, the more often she's inviting me for dinner, brings me little desserts with every visit (they sometimes appear in my fridge after she leaves, too). On the plus side, someone notices .
She worries over everyone's figure ever since I remember, especially with my mum who got hyperthyroid when growing up and was incredibly tiny - I used to play dress up in her old ballgown and it wouldn't zip up at the waist when I was about 6 or 7 - later I measured it to be 22" there! Anyway I was a distractable kid with not a lot of appetite and there was a time when I would be regularly having dinner at my grandparent's. Those huge portions! And if I wouldn't eat up, she'd go "but you have to eat, you're getting so skinny! You're going to get ill and DIE." Alternatively, when I was a bit overwhelmed by school: "You need to coat the nerves properly or you're not going to learn anything" (meanwhile, my doctor was already cautioning that I'm at the very top end of "normal" for my age and height).
The way she describes larger individuals is "healthy", not at all ironic. I don't find it distressing at this point, it's my grandma and I already expect these things from her. Ultimately, it's my choice to eat what she brings - or not.
I wonder though - do you have experience with people who genuinely think it's better for you to be heavier, not for some petty reasons like insecurity or jealousy, but just a different view on what is beautiful and good for you?