Ok, so a wee bit of background.
I'm getting married on Sunday. In the interest of not being a complete whirling psychopath, Ping (hubby to be) and I had some discussion on the topic shortly after he proposed last fall and came to a few decisions.
We're in our 30s, financially stable, and we'd like to think reasonably well adjusted adults. For a low stress/entitlement set up, we decided to do this ourselves, and skip the bits we weren't interested in.
So we're throwing our own wedding. We're hosting it, planned it, kept the wedding parties small (1 each) the overall size reasonable (85 people) and the venue slightly different (a Sunday brunch at the local golf club). Most importantly we're paying for it ourselves. Lock, stock and barrel.
We're less than a week out, unstressed, on schedule, and looking forward to it. Then we made the mistake of congratulating ourselves on not stressing family by making unreasonable requests, or using them as unpaid labour, or asking for a check, or generally being overentitled gits.
I'm getting backchannel information now about family members on both sides being somewhat upset because "they didn't ask us to do anything!"
I need a drink.