Tootsie: I'm sorry that it has taken me so long to answer. He is willing to watch the kids when I go to the gym, but for no more than 1/2 hour. So, much of the exercise will have to be done at home. I live abroad. My family is in the US. So, there isn't really anyone other than him who can watch the kids. His family is here, but his sister works and his parents travel quite often. My sister seems to feel that he is afraid I will leave if I succeed. I don't think that is the issue, but she thinks that while he may want me to lose, he likes the fact that no one pays attention to me the way I am now. If I think back to the way he was when I had gotten off a significant amount, he did act differently and I did get attention. I Am not sure though if it was due to my level of confidence increasing. The "sabotaging" behavior did increase the smaller I got. But, then it was much easier to withstand because I had made so much progress. In the beginning stages, it is significantly harder. I was more able to I've also talked to him about separating our foods. He thinks it is silly. It is fine. I saw the nutritionist on wednesday and was given a 1200cal diet to follow. I haven't mentioned it to him and won't. I'll just let him think i've given up.
Magpie: He has always been this way. I don't know if it is cultural or if my sister is right. In any case, I need to do this with or without his support. I don't want to look back a year from now and think that I should have just stuck to it.
Penny: You are right. I've decided to not look at the overall picture, but rather split it into managable more easily attainable sections.