Hey everyone, figured it would be insightful to get your opinion on this. Have you/will you/are you losing weight for someone other than yourself? Of course, you lose weight for yourself, but is there an additional boost to your motivation by keeping someone in mind?
This Christmas my boyfriend visited me for 3 weeks, it was so amazing to see him, when he left I knew that the next time I see him could be 4+ months depending on when my visa is issued. I figured that in that time, if I really dedicated myself, I could lose a huge chunk of weight and surprise him. I've done this in the past, I went from about 178 lbs to 155 lbs, but because he saw me on webcam and pictures on facebook his reaction wasn't as surprised as I wanted!
But this time around I thought what if I really took it seriously and made sure no pictures of me went online from now until I see him, then I lose a bunch of weight and surprise him with a transformation?? I think it could be really epic! I've been wanting to be at my goal weight for years now, that I'm finding this thought of surprising him a new wave of motivation. I think 30 lbs in 4 months could be manageable, but even if I lost 10 lbs in 4 months it would put me at a healthy BMI.
To go a little deeper, perhaps a little bit more controversial, but one reason (of many) I want to be at my goal weight is for him. I know he loves me for who I am, it doesn't matter what I look like (we started a relationship at my all time heaviest after all), but is it so wrong to want him to have a hot girlfriend?! Someone who he can look at and feel like he's won the jackpot? I mean, this is obviously to do with my confidence in my own body image, he tells me that when I'm happy he is happy so I'm clearly not happy with my size now so I'm dreaming of being lighter.
I've heard of people losing weight for others, to prove old bullies wrong, to impress a family member etc. Do you have a similar tale?