Hello, I'm new here and I'm not sure if this is the right place for this, but I have a few questions and I was hoping someone who has lost it could help me. I apologize if I'm in the wrong place, its just this forum is so much bigger than what I'm used too!
I've done a lot of research in preparation for my journey, and I'm trying to make a lifestyle change (not a temporary diet change) and I want to be realistic so I'm not dissapointed. None of these questions are "deal-breakers" for me, I just want to know! For reference, I'm aiming at loosing about 70+ pounds.
1. Will I get shorter? I know this is a weird and stupid question, but I'm curious. I don't mean like ridiculously shorter or anything, but is it possible that some of these pounds are adding to my height? Could I go from 5-foot 1 to just 5-foot? I'm mostly curious because I'm short to start and my husband is already over a foot taller than me. Just wondering if I'm gonna need a taller stool just to kiss him.
2. I've heard that your shoe size can change(shrink). Is this a real thing?!?! I didn't realize our feet carried that much weight to make a difference! If its true, I might hold off on buying cute shoes until I start loosing weight. (Shoes are kind of a comfort purchase for me, since clothes shopping can be so depressing. Shoes always look good, fit, etc. Never embarrassing!)
3. Will my posture change? Right now my weight is kind of all in the front (boobs and belly) and I get a lot of lower back pain recently since I've crept up to my biggest weight. I just feel like maybe my back is in a bad position from the weight. Or maybe it's just part of having an office job.
4. I'm trying really hard not to day dream about my eventual new body, or look at woman and say "that's what I want to/what I will look like." I really don't know what me at 120 pounds looks like, never been that small as adult, only as a child. I tell myself nothing is going to change, I'm still going to have the same everything just at a different size. Same problems, same personality, etc. I tell myself I'll have new problems. I don't want to give myself unrealistic expectations or a fantasy. But, at the same time, is it possible to be "too" harsh on yourself, and kill the momentum? Basically, what's a good balance between "realistic expectations" and "new body fantasies". What are tricks or things that helped you guys? Are goals like " I want my husband to be able to pick me up" safe fantasies?
5. Me and all of my besties are "plump princesses" it makes every thing more relatable, shopping fun cause we're always in the same sections, etc. I'm definitely the biggest of all of us (and the least properly proportioned due to where ai carry my weight) but I'm a little scared about what loosing weight will mean with friends. I don't think it will end or ruin the friendship. We aren't like that. But, I'm worry it will strain it some. Its already harder being the first of our group to get married. Thoughts? Experiences?
6. What do you say to people about your eating habits when you don't want the whole world to know you're pursuing a new life style? (I say lifestyle and not diet cause its not a fad, I'm making a life style change!!!) People are starting to notice that I'm eating different. I'm refusing extra cookies, sodas, etc. I'm not ashamed of my new lifestyle, but the more people I tell, the more food police I get or they do the opposite and try to force me to eat crap because they think I'm like developing an eating disorder (I'm not, have accountability in my husband and closest friends. I'm actually eating three meals a day instead of a binge dinner and snacks and getting more vegetablea and less processed carb)Mostly I've been telling little white lies to be less suspicious ("I already had three cookies" or "That soda makes my teeth hurt") Is this bad, or is honesty just best to get it "out of the way". thoughts?
Thanks for reading and I hope you don't think I'm too ridiculous with my questions. Hopefully some other people have questions too and we can all learn more!