Ok, so this post is not related to weight (unless this could be the reason someone doesn't wanna hang out with you?) but its weighing heavy on me and I wanted some opinions.
I live in a neighborhood where we recently have had an explosion of new neighbors moving in. I went out of my way to make them all feel welcome and was the first to make contact with them. I even introduced them all to each other.
At first everything was going well, we all used to hang out together, get invited to each others events and so on.
But more and more, it seems like all the neighbors started forming clicks with one another and somehow now they are all "friends" while I have been left out. They are constantly hanging out together and doing stuff and I'm never part of their group anymore. They are always polite and nice whenever I talk to them and I still go out of my way to be nice (since I live with these people practically). They are all having a blast, while I feel like an outcast and because they are neighbors its in my face ALL THE TIME.
I am not moving - this getting out of the situation that way is not an option. I have even tried talking to one of them to see if anything is "the matter" but everything was blown off like everything is ok. Its not.
I don't know why it is - I've been nothing but super nice to everyone. But it just looks like they've all become great friends while I don't seem to belong in "their" group. Anyone new who comes to the neighborhood now, obviously wants to hang with them (since they are the bigger crowd)
I don't know how to ignore this, I don't know how to fix this. I keep trying to be nice and friendly, invite them over and so on because not being that way will only further enhance my "outcast" status. I had no idea how hard this is to live with. Unlike other groups of friends whom you can just ignore and move on if all else fails, this is constantly on YOUR street. One woman in particular (who was one of the first I tried to befriend) is always SO EAGER to hang out with the others and would not miss a thing with them, but anything to do with me, she is suddenly "soooo busy". She couldn't even come over to see my baby (I recently had a baby) even though she lives right next to me!!
This all really hurts and I have no idea how to resolve the situation.
I have wondered forever WHY - whether they are just more like-minded while I am not quite "like" them. Could it be because they don't wanna hang out with someone who had a baby? Could it be ANYTHING... but at this point, it doesn't even matter why anymore. Its not going away - even if I learn why it wouldnt matter- they are all friends and happy and I'm just the acquaintance on the side. They are not suffering any from it. The question becomes how do I deal with it? What would you do?