Gah! I was hoping it wouldn't come to this, but... I met this guy at my kid's school the very day that dh and I decided to split (we were together 25 years, I was crazy over him, he not so much, but that's another story), which was maybe six weeks ago. I was in a complete horrible funk, of course, but at some point I realized that our small talk had turned into a real conversation and that he was SMILING at me in a way that felt, uh, wow! And then at the end of our talk, I said (stupidly, I was pretty foggy given what was going on in my life) "btw, I know your wife." And he said, "you know we're divorced, right?" D'oh!!!
So, he's totally insanely hot, like out of my league someone I'd never even notice bc he's like a movie star hot. And I was feeling a little confused, like wow, why is he smiling at ME like that??? But then I realized that I have SOOOOO much in common with his ex and that he and his ex are probably the two people at the school that I've clicked with in the two years we've been there.
There was a little touch of magic (very little, like enough to feel like I might not have been dreaming that first time, but not enough to feel confident about it) during the couple of times I've run into him since but there's always kids there (and mine don't know about the split yet). And there're only two days of school left. It's pretty likely I'm not gonna see him and even less likely that it'd be a situation where I can say "hey, let's get coffee," or something similarly low key.
So... I think I'm gonna email or text. Is that crazy??? Which is better and what on earth do I say? Short and sweet? Like, just not much more than "do you wanna have coffee sometime?" or do I need to say more? And will he feel really put off by it? I guess if he's into me, no, and if he's not... Gah! But unless you all tell me this is the stupidest idea ever, I think I'm gonna do it. Both of our kids are going to different schools next year and we'll never see each other again. It won't be like I have to face him if it doesn't go well, yk? And not like there's gonna be a chance to do it another way. What do you guys think?