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Originally Posted by laciemn
Do I really have to explain this? I didn't actually call you illogical, but if the shoe fits...well, you said it, not me!
If you eating for emotional reasons and can't just not snack, filling your stomach with a couple hundred calories of veggies is much better than eating loads of cake and ice cream. Basic stuff.
On a side note, why do you like to argue so much? I always see you arguing with everyone about your eating habits and everyone's eating habits. If you don't like it, just don't utilize it. If the OP doesn't like what I said, and doesn't believe my advice will work, then she won't do it, simple as that.
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knewI wasn't the only one that noticed this!
laciemn, your advice was perfectly fine and excellent for someone's whose goal is weight loss, which you even stated. The OP didn't give any indication that her purpose for asking was to uncover some deep emotional issue, not that bringing that to her attention is incorrect, but since this is a weight loss forum, it is greatly expected that most of us do have some expectation to lose weight. While I do deal with an emotional component to weight loss, including issues with restricting my intake, I definitely utilize methods like eating baby carrots instead of cookies, when I'm feeling like I am trying to comfort eat.
I'm sure you've noticed that since wannabe has found the one true way of IE, she has been very concerned with telling any of us that do not practice these methods, that we are wrong, or at least not doing the best plan of action for our overall emotional wellbeing. While I imagine,
wannabe, your heart is in the right place, you really should treat this new found salvation of IE much like a religion. I know I have found this frequently proselytizing tiresome. You should remember, that some of us have a greater need to be a healthy weight, than to drop whatever junk food comes down the pike into our bodies to heal our emotional selves.
We would all like to be emotionally healthy, happy and whole, but no necessarily at the cost of our health or appearance. I think IE takes for granted that the drug of choice that we use to medicate our emotional needs is one that does not have an immediate negative effect on us. What I mean is, if an alcoholic told you he needed to drink at times to help him deal with various feelings and past issues, and that sometimes that's what his body needed, I doubt you'd support such self destruction. Actually, it is quite often the reason behind alcohol and drug abuse; someone trying to medicate emotional (or even physical) pain, and/or to cope with emotional scars. Yet we frown upon this and would support this user if s/he said they are attempting to abstain from their alcohol/drugs.
I realize food is different. Its something we all need and in theory we should be able to listen to our bodies to know when we are hungry. However, that is not always effective for so many reasons that I'm not going to list here. It seems the OP was expressing that she is eating not out of hunger and her follow up post confirms this. However, the advice of laciemn, is very valid, because the OP may not be able to fix the root cause of her eating right away, and in the mean time she may not want to stall her weight loss or even gain. You may be comfortable with that, and I can say I have had times where I've let my weight loss stall to put addressing my ED issues at the forefront of my goals, but not everyone wants to do that, and they may be looking for those tips and tricks to keep weight gain from emotional eating at a minimum.