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Originally Posted by Wannabeskinny
What is your cardio routine now? You sound like you're feeling hopeless but you're not doing yourself any favors. You say the trainer told you how many calories to shoot for buy you have no clue how many you're eating anyway. The trainer said 30 min of cardio but you set yourself up by going on the harder machines. You can't succeed if you deliberately set yourself up to fail. You only lost 1lb last week and you've labeled that a failure. Your post is very glass-half-empty. It's ok, we've all been there and it's ok to indulge in a little self pity. But that's over now and it's time to talk about what you CAN do.
Your trainer made some suggestions and they're not bad. She said 30 min of cardio which is doable as long as you do what you can or work towards it. But you shot that down. She suggests a caloric amount which is also far from drastic but you didn't like that either. She invited you into her class and encouraged you by saying she believed you could do it and that brought you down too. . . .You're not obligated to honor anyone's advice but anything you do consistently will work eventually. Just keep doing and working and it will work out.
Self pity is a real drag. Whenever I feel a shred of it I get my a$$ to the track in the mornings and watch the old ladies run circles around me and that gets my butt in gear. Even more so the old lady who walks completely hunched over with a cane doing her daily laps. If she can do it then I can do. Perspective is everything.
ITA (I just left out the part about the OP's previous posts because I don't know enough about that).
OP, as far as I can tell from your post, I see no reason to blame the trainer----unless there is something I am missing?? Sounds like she is giving you some moderate goals to shoot for; nothing wrong with that. That doesn't mean you have to achieve those goals right now. As others have said, work up to them.
We all get discouraged. For years, I would read posts by longterm maintainers and wonder what the "secret" to their success was. I finally realized that one big difference between the people who maintain longterm and those who can't seem to is how they handle disappointment: I notice that many longterm maintainers don't let discouragement overwhelm them into giving up. In fact, they don't give up. They keep plugging along through partial regains, stressful life situations, etc. They don't give up. I've learned something from that, and I think if it whenever I get discouraged and just want to give up, buy a cheesecake, and take out my fork. It helps me to avoid that mindset. OP, don't give up. Perseverance, not perfection, will get you to your goal.