I normally wouldn't post such a personal thread but I'm sailing unknown waters and need some advice desperately.
I'm a 26 yr old woman, I started seeing this guy last month via an online dating service and we met for the first time about a week ago and subsequently have had three dates. All three of those dates, he pursued me and asked me out/planned where we would go/etc. He's been very polite, respectful and best of all not intrusive. Truth be told I've never dated/been in a relationship/been serious with anyone before so I'm really just relying on advice from others to get me through this; unknown to him he was my first kiss (3rd date...tried not to jump the gun) so that might give you some perspective on how single I've been in my life lol. I'm aware there's a stigma when it comes to women who haven't been with anyone; that they've got the delusional veil over their eyes and see wedding bells/babies in the future with the first guy that's nice to them. This stigma intensifies when it comes to women who were previously overweight. (This btw came out of a few guy's mouths after they asked me very early on how many relationship's I've been in...etc and then soon lost interest when they heard the truth.) I'm not an idiot, I understand that lots of relationships have to fail before you figure out what you want... however I do want to have some some positive experiences as well.
Anyway, I do like him, but part of me is still battling the anxiety of coming off as desperate or too eager. He's a busy guy and has a demanding work schedule, so I've allowed him to set the times to fit with his schedule. So my question is... he's planned 3 dates for us, shown his interest to me... is it uncouth to ask him out on a date at this point? I've tried reading articles online but they all say different things. "Women who pursue men set the tone he's not the leader, men like women who are the aggressor, sign you're woman wants you"...and other nonsense. I'd like to just be upfront that I also have an interest in him as well so he doesn't feel like he's doing all the leg work and I'm just sitting back waiting for him to come to me, but again he's busy so I would hate to be a pest at the same time... Any help would be appreciated!!!!