My dad continued to drive in Estonia until he was in an accident and they suspended his license over there. He had a brain scan done and they felt he'd had a small stroke and shouldn't be driving. He claimed his "brain had pulled a trick" and that he was fine.
Over here we found out he was driving WITHOUT insurance. I tried to take his keys but he physically tried to beat me up when I was doing so. I held his wrists and watched him twist and shout
(sorry Beatles fans) and finally wet his pants.
Then I took the keys. I had to start driving him to the store and running his errands. I put him in touch with a seniors organization that charged a tiny fee for driving folks to appointments but he refused to use them. He also refused to give up his car, even though he couldn't drive it.
I plan to retire in a much smaller city (can't afford a condo in downtown Toronto) and have been there for a look see. I think I can manage to get a small 2 bedroom house within walking distance of all that we will need, plus have a bit of money left over. We will need to keep one car as the bus service there is mostly non-existent. I tried to take the bus twice and it was faster to walk to where I was going.
I imagine DH and I will have to work part time until we die as DH's and my Canada pensions will be miniscule. I was speaking with a guy at Home Depot who is 74 and works there on the weekend to keep his mind occupied and for some social contact. I expect DH and I will go the same route - work the shifts no one else wants and then have the week off.
SIGH. Better than the alternative I guess.
Dagmar