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I've been worrying lately that i've been alone for most my life and wonder if I am getting used to it and would I even be able to live with another person..its sad.
I had ALL those worries too! I started dating again in December of 2012, so just over a year ago. I went on an online dating site and met about a dozen guys in my area. I had a LOT of coffee dates and online chatting sessions. I didn't click with any of them so I never told them my history. When I met my current bf, it was like we were made for each other, we had so much in common, and even though he's 20 years younger than me, he's an "old soul" and we quickly realized we were very compatible. I told him on day 1 that I hadn't been with another man for about 18 years. I told him (briefly) why and took a chance. He was very understanding, and later on he told me that he liked that I had no current "baggage" (meaning exes). Our sex life is great and I forget all about my saggy boobs and abs lol...Originally Posted by davina
I definitely agree with trust...I also worry about how to explain lack of relationship experience or being uncomfortable to getting physical and touching but I guess this is stuff you don't have to really talk about in the beginning and when you are more comfortable it will be easier to open up?I've been worrying lately that i've been alone for most my life and wonder if I am getting used to it and would I even be able to live with another person..its sad.
I was determined to be alone for the rest of my life due to comfortable rut, lack of self-esteem, obesity and depression. But I just woke up one day and realized that I didn't want to live that way anymore and nobody could fix me but myself. I didn't think I could live with anyone either, but it was very easy once we moved in together.
It's scary for sure, but I don't think you should condemn yourself to loneliness because of depression and anxiety...we only live once and if we choose to live, we need to experience love and happiness! I took way too long to realize it, and I've said I do regret it...but I've moved on and am making the most of it now.