New here and need some support

  • At the moment I am 213 lbs.! How did that happen? Apparently I am a major stress eater. In the past 10 years I've gained 43 lbs. and in these past 10 years I have gotten married, moved 1500 miles away from all friends and family, had baby #1 and #2 (within the first 2 years) I live with my horrible mother in law who resents me, found evidence my husband is seeking out online escorts and my beloved black lab had to be put down.
    I know, why don't I leave my husband and move, right? First, can't afford to move, second I really don't believe in divorce. But that's not why I'm here. I am hoping to connect with others for support to lose this weight and feel good about myself again. I have a bad habit of putting everyone else first and by the end of the day I am too exhausted and depressed to take time for me. I guess I should add that I have fibromyalgia and although I have a high tolerance for the pain, the fatigue kicks my butt.
    I homeschool my 2 children and we now have 2 new puppies that require constant supervision if you know what I mean. I am lucky that I do not have to work outside the home. My husband's job involves a lot of travel so he's gone a lot ( not such a bad thing) I just wish he could take his mother ( who doesn't speak English) with him lol.
    Well that's pretty much my life right now. I've lurked on this site for a while and see how y'all support each other and never judge - would love to have some of that. Thanks for listening.
  • Honey, I've been there, too! My husband recently cheated on me, and it left me feeling like a fat ugly sack of lard. We're working through it, despite everyone telling me to leave. I understand your pain and your motivation to get healthy. Just make sure you're doing it for you, not anyone else.
  • to you..

    Starting to take care of yourself is the 1st step and congratulations for starting. Sometimes its the hardest thing. Pick an eating plan that you can live with (so it does not add stress to your life). Having kids (and new puppies) makes added physical work for you too... but it looks like you have a reason to walk everyday (or more than once lol). You can do it. Just believe in yourself. YOU ARE IMPORTANT. Noone is going to take better care of you besides YOU.

    Being here on this forum is also a wonderful place. Some good challenges and goals to try for make it a game to get going. I wish you well and hope to see you around the threads!!