Hi! (waving)
I had lap band surgery in November 2008 - lost 85 lbs in 14 months
I chose the lap band because it was adjustable, and because I didn't want the permanent surgical changes to my digestive system that were a part of the gastric bypass procedure. The sleeve was not available when I had my surgery - pretty much I was given the option of a bypass or the band.
I've found the band to be good for me - it IS for people who are more self-directed and self-motivated. Because it's up to you - like a lot of the procedures - you can exercise control over how fast you lose or IF you lose. I know people that have lost NOTHING with the band - because they've learned how to "eat around it" and haven't gotten their 'head game' right - I've struggled with that as well.
I think you have to get as much information as YOU need to make an informed decision for yourself. Think about your personality - are you the type that wants to be more 'in control' of the procedure and the rate of your weight loss? The band may be for you...
Are you in a situation where you need to lose the weight as fast as possible to stave off negative health effects and to regain your mobility? The bypass may be for you - I know people that chose it because of the more rapid rate of weight loss that's possible.
Remember that whatever decision you make, it's for LIFE. I will never have my band removed, though that is an option. I know ME - I would not be able to control my food consumption effectively without "Jillian" (yes, I named my band after the psycho trainer on The Biggest Loser).
My daughter also has a lap-band - and her progress is a bit slower than mine, but still where she wants it to be. I have no issues with malabsorption, don't have endless visits to my doctor (I think I've had 4 adjustments), and other than eating more slowly, people around me wouldn't even know I have a band. Another important factor: Exercise! I started by walking, worked up to running, and now exercise is a big part of my life - and I feel a big contributor to my success!
Of course, I'm an advocate for spreading the word about these life-saving surgeries, so lots of people in my community know about my band, but that was a personal choice. Sometimes all we need is to be able to ask someone "live" what their experience has been in order to feel more comfortable.
Hope this helps - and good luck to you in whatever you choose!