This morning, I was reading through some of my past blog entries over on the Weight Watchers site. Reading those older entries helps me to understand things about myself and to spot patterns that may not have been obvious at the time I wrote the entries. I noticed that more than once, I referred to seeing myself as an amorphous blob. I've also noticed, through both my writing and my daily actions, that I'm spending more time looking, really looking at myself.
A lot of that has to do with the visible, noticeable, physical changes. I've shed almost 69 pounds. That's the equivalent of a little over 8 gallons of water. When I first started this weight loss effort, I couldn't get out of the shower without brushing against the shower door frame. Now, I have plenty of room to spare. My belly used to touch the steering wheel of my car and I was getting close to having to back the seat up in order to fit. Now, I've got quite a bit of space, so much so that I had to move the seat closer to comfortably reach the peddles. Those are great changes, but perhaps not the best changes.
You see, for the last several years, I felt ugly and sexless. I was the amorphous blob with no gender. I ceased to care much about how I looked other than being clean, wearing clean clothing and being just presentable enough for work. When I got too big to shave my legs, I stopped doing other things too. That moment, on that day, is when the amorphous blob took complete control of my outlook towards my body. I had my hair cut mannishly short and stopped styling it. I stopped shaping my eyebrows and doing my fingernails. I gradually, without even realizing it, purged my closet of anything overtly feminine. I purchased clothing that while pleasing to me in color, was mostly utilitarian and masculine in cut. It was clothing I could grow into as I continued to gain weight. I felt that I didn't deserve pretty things and the notion was firmly planted in my attic that I really wasn't a woman anymore. Just a thing. Just a blob. Just a fat pumpkin waddling on sausage legs.
That's not true anymore. I see a shape emerging, a womanly shape. My belly, while still big, no longer protrudes further than my breasts. I'm seeing hips and the beginnings of a defined waistline. My legs, particularly my thighs, are noticeably smaller. My upper arms are still a bloody nightmare and getting worse as I grow bat wings, but my wrists and forearms are smaller and they look a bit more feminine. I find myself from time to time just looking at my wrists and thinking, "Wow. Maybe I can start wearing a watch again or maybe even a bracelet." My face, which was horribly bloated, is smaller now. The fat around my neck, which was literally strangling me at night, is melting away. I no longer feel like a pumpkin waddling around on sausage legs. I'm beginning to see the woman emerging from the amorphous blob.
As I watch my body changing, my attitude is changing too. I feel like a woman not just a thing. I'm letting my hair grow and I actually style it from time to time. Instead of going to the cheapest place possible to get my hair cut, I'm spending a little more money for a better cut, a better style and just an overall better experience. I started doing my nails again. I had my eyebrows done last week and I swear that took about 5 years off my face. I've noticed that while my clothing now is still fairly utilitarian, my eye is drifting towards pieces that I think are pretty, even stylish, rather than mere covering for a swelling body.
I no longer see the amorphous blob in the mirror, I see me. A smaller, noticeably female, happier me.
Bye bye, blob.