Over Thanksgiving my DH, little one, and I traveled up to my hometown (about 4 and 1/2 hours away from where we now live) to spend the holiday with my family. While we were there we had the displeasure of meeting my sister's new boyfriend that she has been dating for the past 4 months. I'll call him "Carl".
Carl is 28. My sister is 19. Carl doesn't have a job, goes to community college part time, smokes pot with my sister and mooches off of her and my mother. He does not have his own vehicle and depends on my sister for transportation. Although there is a consideralbe age difference, his immaturity is astounding. He technically lives with his grandmother, but for all practical purposes he's moved into my mother's house as he spends every night there with my sister. He was attached to her hip the entire time I was there (Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday). I felt uncomfortable staying at my mom's house with him there, as he is crude, overly-familiar, and downright dumb.
For whatever reason my sister is infatuated with him, and was excited to introduce him to me. I wanted to like this guy for her sake, but I just can't. He defines deadbeat, yet my mother likes him and believes he is a "good influence" on my sister. I just don't see it. Both my DH and my dad feel the same way I do (my mom and dad are separated), so it's not just me.
Because my sister is so young, I can't forsee this guy being "the one" or anything like that. I am, however, concerned that my sister will end up pregnant, or with an STD, or that she'll get taken advantage of (even more so than she already has been) by this dirt bag.
What should I do/say? Should I even say anything or just stay out of it? Just the thought of this guy seriously makes me sick to my stomach.