First off, thank you to all of you!! I'm so happy with all the lovely advice!
Heads up, not so sure how to quote yet, so sorry in advance!
Lets start off with the friends/my weight side. Alot of you have commented on the fact that because I am in the normal range, maybe I should try to do weights, not lose weight.. I was already thinking about adding some weight training to my stregnth training, and you guys have deffinaltally convinced me
Many of my friends/other family members had the same mantra, becaue your in the "normal" range, you shouldnt loose any weight. Many of them have come up to me and told me they were worried I was going to bring myself to being unhealthy, or too obsesed. That was always sweet of them, and I would do the same for them. However, even though I am in the healthy weight range, when I'm that heavy, its the result of months of overeating (well beyond 3000 calories) and lazing around. Though blessed with a healthy metabolism, I'm still not doing all that great. My parents were worried I was making myself sick with all the food.. I went from running 8 min miles, to barely finishing one (panting heavily, face red, ect ect) at 9:40. Normally with the right eating habits, and just average exercise, I drop to 120-125.. I wouldnt say 120 is my goal, its my bare min, and I would feel better about myself being at a healthy weight for me, I also have volleyball this fall, so I have to go through rigourus training, which boost the metabolism even more.. but thank you for the concern!
- Twinieten, thank you for all your advice
The friend who switched the soda mostly worried me more than ticked me off, but she was always known to go over the top to the extreme. Later she got some help, and was diagnosed as bipolar, so shes a lot more calm about these things after treatment.
-Ms. Lorie Bell, my gosh, you look fantastic!! Congrats on your goal, your maintianing, and thank you for telling evreyone that yes, a little curve is cute
-Artic Mama, I like your thoughtful perspective on all of this, and I totally agree a partner should be behind you, and that you should watchout for those who arent
Congrats on your pregnancy by the way
Now to the other side of this conversation, the beau. Thank you all for the advice about doing what I wanted to do. That was my original plan, but I was a little put off by his lack of enthusiasm. He was saying very kind things such as "if it makes you happy I'm happy with you at whatever weight" and I know he would think me beautiful non the less. He's an amazing partner. But he just didnt seem that happy about me going to the gym (he thought it was for volleyball at first, but pieced together the weight part, can't hide too much from him.) I finally asked him to not hold back and tell me exactally what he thought about me losing the weight. Thats why he was a little blunt (and later admits overdramatic.) We talked agian last night about it, and he finally gave me his reasoning. First off, he does love the curves. He says the idea of me not loving them, and trying to rid myself of them was a little heartbreaking, he would rather me learn to love my body as it is. The other bit was, yes, insecurites. Always thought I was a little to good for him (silly boy,) and hasnt always had a great time with confidence about himself (we've been working on that.) He was worried if I lost more weight, and gained some confidence, It would make the feeings worse. He's also admited a lot of people have been constantly badgering him with the idea if I lose the weight I'll leave him.. He said although he never truely belived that, it still hurt to hear that over and over, and to think that evreyone thought he wouldnt be good enough for me at that point.. That broke my heart. Hes amazing. The worst part is it was his own family ):
We talked things over, and hes done a total 180. He thinks the confidence boost will make me even more beautiful, and as long as I'm happy and healthy, hes in total support of me. Were even talking about budding up when I get back from vacay, so that he can feel better about himself too
-Poppy201, Thankyou for the thoughtful coments!
We've been dating ten months, but were close friends before this, so we've always been a little to blent with each other :P
- To I am the glue. My dear, that was both the most heartbreaking yet insperational story I've heard in a while. I'm so sorry he was that un supportive, and caused that much damage, yet so impressed that you were strong and independent, and made it through! You sound so happy with your new more supportive trusting partner
Good luck, thank you so much for sharing!!
-Krampus, good advice on how to temp deal with a non supportive person in your life.. sometimes its just best to not bring up the subject
So, now that my support problems are solved, I'd still love to hear more stories about people who were un supportive in your journey (for good or bad.) and how it affected you or what you learned for it!
--Good luck to all, and once agian thank you bunches ♪