K so you all might remember my "I have a date tonight!" thread and also one of my more recent threads concerning said date-fellow and a mushroom & Swiss burger. Well... somethings have changed on that ballgame and I fear I may have messed things up/have had some bad judgement. Before I get into the current situation, here is the back story:
We had started talking about a week or two before I graduated at the end of April; I messaged him on a dating site and we started talking and REALLY connected. We had decided we were going to get together then, but then he told me he had started another relationship so he couldn't date me anymore, but we could still talk as friends. I took him up on that cause he was/is a really nice guy, but I honestly didn't talk to him for about 2 weeks cause I just kinda wrote him off and moved on -- we had only been talking for like a week anyway and I was going through some rough times so I just didn't think about it.
Well, that 2 weeks rolled around and I randomly decided to text him (this was about a week after I graduated, first week of May). We started talking about stuff and mid-conversation he randomly told me he was single again. This was on a Wednesday, and long story short, we kept talking for the next few days and we went out for our first date on that Saturday (the 5th). We went to see The Hunger Games, and when we were in the theatre, we instantly went into cuddle mode and, well, this is where it starts: he starts rubbing on me, and it feels good so I allow him to continue. I also notice the more he rubs me, the more daring he gets with where he puts his hands. I continue to let him because at this point I have become putty because his hands feel so nice and well... damn it just felt good! We also had our first kiss at this point. After this, we head over to a bubble tea cafe where we sit and talk for a while and after that we decided to go into the city and walk around down town. We get there, and as soon as we start to walk on the street, a downpour started so we went back the car and he suggested we go back to his place to dry off. I wasn't ready to leave him yet, so I agreed and off we went. To make this story end here: we ended up fooling around a bit, but it wasn't anything too serious.
We keep talking, just as frequently, for the next week and our next date we decided was going to be at his place again and we were going to have a Netflix night. Well... to make this story short, there wasn't much "Netflixing" going on. I entered the room and he planted me with a really, really intense kiss and needless to say although I totally did not intend on it...we ended up having sex. That was pretty intense, too, lol. Earlier this same day, though, due to some issues with the management at his apt complex, he found out he had to move ASAP. And at this point, the only other place he could go until he found another place was back at his mom's.
This is where things start to get a bit fuzzy. After this night, we continue to talk, but I'm noticing the conversations are being started by me and not him, and they're becoming a bit less frequent. I knew he was busy with moving out, so I didn't think too much of it. We had date number 3 this past Tuesday, which included dinner and well... more sex. Which leads us to my current situation:
I haven't been hearing from him all that much. I keep my texting/conversations to a minimum as not to bug him -- maybe once a night/every other night, but at this moment I haven't talked to him since Monday night. He explained that he was still kinda busy with moving out and stuff, but I can't help but to think his interest in me has changed somewhat. I really did NOT intend on having sex with him so fast; we just connected really, really well, and the sexual part was pretty intense...and when we've been together in person, when we weren't fooling around, there was what I thought was a real connection going on. He's super easy to talk to and I feel super comfortable around him, which he has expressed he feels the same about me. He always has complimented me and seems to have made it pretty clear that he does, genuinely like me... but then if that's the case, why is he so silent?
I can't really remember if our conversations have always been initiated by me but I think it's been a bit of both, and he never has seemed to be bothered by me when I *do* talk to him, so I really don't know what his deal is. Should I just leave him alone and let him throw the ball, or what? Do you think I messed things up by having sex with him so fast? I really didn't mean to do that and I really kind of regret it.... do you think I should talk to him about it? I don't want to make the situation worse if it's already bad. I really just don't know what to do about this one.
And sorry for the long post, I figured the best way for y'all to understand the situation was if I told you what it was, lol. Thanks for any advice y'all give!