Hey Ladies (and any guys who happen to think this is an interesting topic)!
As some of you may know from the 20-somethings forum, I got broken up with about 2 1/2 months ago, by my bf of almost 2 years. After a few weeks of being very confused and upset, we talked for a week or two. I got the closure I needed and I feel ready to move on. However, I'm not the kind of person who hangs out in bars alone and I've been pretty unsuccessful with meeting people in that kind of situation, so I signed up for OkCupid to give online dating a shot. I've been on there for a week and been on a couple of dates already. I just would like some input from those of you who have tried online dating or are still using it. So!
-Did you like online dating? Did you meet your significant other that way?
-Is it okay to see multiple people at once? Maybe that's a dumb question but I feel strange going on a date with a guy on Thursday and then out with a different guy Friday. One guy already seems to like me a LOT, and I'm not sure how to deal with it. I like him but we've only gone out twice. I need more time to know if I want to commit, but I don't want to lead him on or hurt him. Which leads to...
-How long did it take you to realize that you found someone you wanted to commit to?
-How did you dress for second/third/fourth dates? First date I did kind of casual, jeans and a nice top. Should I go fancier for the next date if we're going out to dinner, or should I do about the same?
-This is for the guys if one should stumble into this thread: How did you like girls dressing for dates? What's too casual/too dressed up?
These might all be dumb questions, but I wasn't a big dater before my ex, and then I spent 2 years with him. I don't really know how to do this! Any general advice would be much appreciated too!
Also, since I've gotten this from a couple of friends - I'm not trying to rush headlong back into a serious relationship to replace the one I lost. I do think that I will be most completely over him once I get a crush on someone else, and I would be happy if that led to something more. I realized that in the last few months of our relationship I wasn't happy, and it showed me what I really want in a partner.
So! That's the end of this really long post. If you made it this far, you deserve a cookie!