My favorite line of a song- You've gotta love yourself if you can ever love me
It's SO true. You have to love you. Be confident in you. Maybe your guy friends don't even know you're interested! That guy you have a crush on might think you are just friends.
Maybe it's a help to point out- you watch the new skinny chicks COME AND GO. You are still there watching the revolving door of women who don't mean much to the guys. and I can promise that after a fun night of being "carried around", those skinny girls don't feel very good when your guy friend doesn't call.
But then, I 100% get what you mean. I have the same exact problem. Being in my twenties in las vegas, land of the easy naked chicks, is not easy. It sucks being overlooked. It sucks not getting asked out while some random girl is on the cute guys lap. It REALLY sucks watching the guy you like fall for someone else, and you feel like if you were just a little skinnier that could have been you.
So yeah, I get it. All I can say is to keep the weight loss up. Men are very visual. You already have the friendship there, and that makes the best relationships! Just have to get the visual right too.