I was just wondering if there are any wives out there that want to talk about body issues with their husband. I know it is a personal topic for people struggling with it and I think it will make us all feel better knowing we aren't alone! I have been feeling really insecure (newlywed of 4 months - been together 5 years so not too "newly") as of late. I have gained back every lb of the weight I lost last year and just kind of looked at myself in the mirror naked and thought "yikes, seriously, who would find this sexy or arousing?". I know my husband loves me, thinks I'm beautiful, etc and we have an amazing emotional relationship/friendship, but our sex life has always ranged from mediocre to horrid. We've talked about it constantly and the blame always circles to me but "not me" (I don't know if that makes sense). My husband has never once initiated sex since our honeymoon, and rarely initiated it while dating, and since we now live together I've noticed constant viewing of porn sites on the computer and have confronted him about it numerous times in the last 6 months. It was something I was aware of over the years, but it didn't bother me until we cohabitated because now I am here EVERY day. Before it could be a whole week until we saw each other, but now, I mean wait until 3 o'clock when I get home, seriously.
The bottom line is I feel like he's using porn to fulfil his sexual needs because he doesn't enjoy having sex with his overweight wife because it is too much work, so he doesn't initiate it, unless I do - which means I have to do ALL the work. To top it all off he isn't the healthiest either and has some fairly big ED issues - but won't admit that it's a part of the problem (it's apparently a result of me not doing enough foreplay, once again, my fault).
I want to mostly lose weight for me and for health reasons and gaining freedom to do things being big helps - but it just really hurts so bad it is almost impeding my weight loss efforts.
P.S. I always find it annoying how men expect us to get all freshened and dressed up (my husband wants me to put on hosiery to seduce him), but my husband will wear his gross long underwear leggings around in a tank top, unshowered for a few days with horrible breath and expect me to just come onto him. What the ****, ladies!!