In college, I took a human sexuality course, and while I don't remember the exact numbers, I distinctly remember the whole class being suprised that the "average" frequency of sex for young couples was so low, and that the average for older couples was surprisingly high. It meant that the cultural perception that young people are having sex all of the time, and older and even elderly couples never have sex - is completely hogwash. Our "perception" of normal and the reality are very different.
Once a week, or even twice a month is'nt by any means rare or unusual for couples of any age.
Of course, it doesn't matter whose sex drive is more "average," what matters is that your sex drives are incompatible. Unfortunately this is also not at all unusual. Couples in perfect sexual-sync, in which both partners are getting exactly the kind and amount of sex they want - are the minority, not the majority. In most cases, someone is always getting more or less than they would like. Even couples who do have similar desires, often aren't in sync at the same time - meaning they both want sex once a week, but one person wants it on Tuesday mornings, and the other wants it on Saturday evening.
Sex always seems naturally easy and perfect on tv and in books - it's not. Sexual and financial differences are both at the top of the list as reasons couple split up, and I think it's partially because we're taught that agreements in these areas are supposed to come easily and naturally (especially with sex).
Most couples are mismatched sexually to some degree, but there are healthy ways to communicate and compromise so that neither partner gets everything they want, but neither feels as if they're the one always making a "sacrifice."
Counseling is the best, and easiest way to learn the needed skills.
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Originally Posted by Porthardygurl
I know that this place isnt meant to be a therapy place but couples sex therapy doesnt exist in port hardy..
Actually yes it does, and I'd highly recommend it. In a quick search on google, I found eleven listings for
couple's counseling in Port Hardy and found eleven listings with phone numbers just in the first source listed. And there could be even more, because some counselors who do not specialize in couple's counseling (and therefore would not be listed) would also have experience).