Hey Girls...
Ok I need some advice and it does pertain to my weight loss. When I met my girlfriend almost 2 years ago I was a whopping 250lbs, size 18's were getting tight (and that was vanity sizing)....well I have been working on me and I'm down now to 206 and wearing a size 15 and large shirt in regular clothing and feeling ultra sexy and so good!
Ok, background. My GF is 10 years older than me, ready to settle etc...I'm still in my 30's, like to party every now and then (not like when I was 20 lol) but I'm really social....
So now that I've lost weight she's getting really insecure. She told me this weekend that I make her feel fat. I said "How do I do that?" She didn't respond. I NEVER say anything about what she puts in her mouth. Having grown up overweight most of my life, in a very dysfunctional home, I have learned to not judge people and point fingers etc....cause I know how much that hurts. But if we go out for dinner (like we had sushi the other night) I stick to the sashimi casue it's just fish, low cal and really good for you....she would ask me if I want shirmp tempura or something fried and when I refuse she just stays quiet....or we went to starbucks and I got a small vanilla lattee made with soya and sugar free syrup as a treat. My GF is like " how is that a treat?"
I don't know....I feel like we are drifting...she's even told me that when I get all skinny and hot I'll find a better, hotter GF........
But I reassure her that what she gives me from her heart and soul is what I want.......she's even getting annoyed with my Facebook picture, it's the same avatar I have here...saying I look hoochie!!!!! She doesn't want me to look sexy but that's who I am, I have ALWAYS been that way, skinny or fat! I'm totally ultra femme, love my heels, makeup etc....but don't get me wrong that doesn't make me a pushover! I'm totally confident in myself and pretty masculine when I have to be LOL
I don't know what to do.....I feel we are drifting apart and she's taking my weight loss peronsally and hard. She's very insecure and it's DRIVING ME NUTS!
What do I do? I don't know what to do, or even why I'm posting...I just don't know........cause her insecurity isn't making me very happy....and I have been in such a great place since losing weight and my new lifestyle changes...it's almost that she wants me to stay fat