I thought I would throw this out here to see what you gals think about my situation....always appreciate the advice I have received here
A few weeks ago my daughter announced (posted here by me )she was expecting her first baby
Then last week my niece announced she was expecting her 2nd baby
Now here is my problem....well, it could be a problem.
Last night I asked my wife if she has had time to call my ex-wife and my daughter's mil about a baby shower. She told me that she hadn't and would this week-end. Then she tells me this...
when my niece called to announce her baby news, she congratulated Angie and I on my our daughter's good news. Then...
she says "Since Amanda's is due in March and mine in May, we can have a combined baby shower!"......
OK, first of all I love my niece....second everyone in my family will buy baby items for the new kiddo....a given! But...
she has already had her shower! My daughter has not.....
I know traditions change over the years and what not...but in my family, and my ex's and my wife's it has always been a family shower for the first baby only! This has been forever our tradition. When all my siblings and my kids were growing up, gifts were bought for babies #2-#whatever...swings, toys, clothes, were passed down and around.
We had a very nice...very nice shower for my niece 4 years ago when her son was born. We have continued to support with items over the years also.
Without being nasty, let me say this...when it comes to family activities that involve getting together they always happen at my house as I have the best one for that. Everyone...all the nieces, the nephew, all the young adults (our kids) all ask what they can bring or just bring something to eat or drink...except....you guessed it I can't ever remembering her asking or bringing.....anyway..as I have said...I love my niece
My wife says "NO WAY!" is our daughter going to "share" her family shower....NO EFFIN WAY!! And to be honest she would have no problem telling our niece so, if it came right down to it.
My problem is, I kind of hope it just goes away and never comes up again...then part of me wants to bring it up with my sister, her mom, and have her tell my niece it isn't going to happen....I know my sis will back me and to be honest probably be floored with what my niece brought up...but, also knowing her, she may be inclined to "make excuses" for her.....
we all have family issues don't we?
So ladies, tell me....what would you do? and is it cool, these days, to have baby showers for the 2nd-whatever kid?