I have friends who are fat (imagine that!) and some of them are dieting/exercising and really doing well. I feel like I too, have done pretty good, even tho I do get discouraged at times (i.e. not losing as fast as I'd like, gaining each TOM, etc.) And as friends, we often share our goals, mistakes, tips, etc - you know... like here.
But there's this ONE friend... whom I haven't seen in a year... and, well... She has gained even more weight since I last saw her. We are not quite the same height; she is taller by 3" or so - but our body composition is basically the same. Since January 1, I have lost 20 lbs and she has gained 20 lbs. I am now at 164 and she is at 200. While she did say "You look really good!" she didn't mention any weight loss or anything like that - which is fine! - I thanked her for the compliment and we continued conversing.
Then later on, she did say something to the effect that I'd "obviously lost some weight" and then lamented how she'd gained weight, and didn't understand it because "I still eat less than 1000 calories per day!" Of course, she admits to "never giving up my wine!" habit and drinks nearly a bottle PER DAY. (no calories there, right?)
I said "Maybe you just think you're eating less than 1000 calories per day; have you tried tracking your calories? That's what I do - I log every bite, every morsel into FitDay" - and I explained how I THOUGHT I was eating around 1500 per day but when I logged it all in for a couple weeks, I saw that I was regularly eating more like 2000-2200 per day and OMG! No wonder I'd gotten so fat!!! Then I explained how I am now eating 1400-1500 per day with a cycle of about 1800 on every 4th day, and I have been averaging a loss of about a pound a week... then of course, she says "B-TCH!" you know, how some people jokingly/kiddingly (but not really joking or kidding) say that because they're kinda jealous? ... only, I guess I took it the wrong way, & it kind of hurt my feelings because I HAVE BEEN WORKING AT THIS AND NOW IT'S FINALLY PAYING OFF and why can't I just get a "good for you!" comment FROM A FRIEND instead of the obligatory "B-TCH!" comment?
So I quickly changed the subject & refused to talk about it anymore because frankly, I don't have the energy, nor the inclination, to fight someone else's losing battle.
Okay, I'm done... rant over... thanks for listening.