Hello ladies,
I'd like to begin with first saying thank you for taking the time to read this it's going to be a bit lengthy but I don't know what to do at this point.
So after a spat with my husband about his choice of friends (he doesn't see it as an issue to have single lady friends yet I can't have any male friends at all)
We agreed to come to a compromise about the whole friends situation. I an over analyzer of every single thing ever couldn't go to bed and just started feeling lonely and depressed. A lot of what he said really hurt, mainly it was him pointing out that I don't like doing things he likes and when I asked him what he couldn't come up with an answer. He always makes excuses for not wanting to go out for date night saying he is tired or he just doesn't feel like it, but if it was any one else male or female invites him out he is raring to go.
This morning he called and I just had to tell him my feelings, I let him know that I was feeling lonely, depressed, and just pushed aside. He let me know he had been feeling the same way since Christmas. This shocked me because he never mentioned anything (a guy thing maybe?). When I asked him why he just said he didn't know and that it should eventually go away, I told him why I felt the way I did and he stuck with his story "I don't know, it'll go away, it's a rough patch, just leave it alone" I didn't pressure him any further in fear he will just keep shutting down so I just stopped asking.
I guess my question here is if anyone has any experience with this sort of thing. I feel like our marriage has just been one big sham this year. He has never expressed these feelings before but something inside me is saying he is just saying this to keep me quiet about my feelings. Everything else has been normal when we do have our occasional spats it doesn't last more than an hour or two. We are still intimate and he was excited about working on his car. Maybe this was all a red flag? We had a great weekend at his parent's house went out to watch a show he had been dying to go to so I am lost...help!