Kristen,
I am sorry!
The last time you posted I went to the daily and looked at your menus and they did look fine. Now I just looked at your menu for yesterday,
B ff yogurt, cottage cheese
L OUT...planned...olive garden, salad, 2 breadsticks, 1/2 bowl Pasta Fagioli, 1/2 bowl chicken gnocci
S nuts, peel cheese
D steak veggies
I'd just say that I don't ever weigh after a meal out, especially an off plan one. When I've been eating OP, the off plan stuff sends my weight soaring. I think that Olive Garden meal would raise my weight by at least 5 pounds; white flour, gnocci, pasta and (I am certain) lots of sodium in everything.
Don't get me wrong, I eat those off plan meals I have just learned not to expect a decent weigh in afterwards...
I'm with you, I don't understand the "science" of WL...defecits...eat more...eat less, etc.
For years my BP was fine and then at some point it started being an issue. I went to the DR. and had a high reading. I bought a good home BP machine (under $50 at Costco) and started taking my BP twice a day so I could learn about my daily numbers. Reluctantly, I went on meds because it seemed that for me, it was necessary to get those numbers down.
What did I find out?
~SBD did help, but it took awhile for my daily readings to come down reliably.
~Being agitated, such as you even described in the daily chat, did raise my BP every time.
One thing I notice about me, is that once I get stressed I start retaining water like crazy. From yesterday to today my scale #'s went up 5# with OP eating...tweaked back and a cold. For me, I've chosen not even personally register the # on the scale at the Dr office because I always weigh at home without clothes. It never has had any similarity to my scale at home.
It sounds like your DR isn't very supportive. I understand that...it's been very hard for me to find a supportive Dr. here and I get very frustrated. Perhaps, if it's been so long since you've been it would be a good time to look for someone who could be more helpful. We all sympathize but we aren't Drs.
I really tried not to give you more "advice" and just tell you my experience because it sounds like the barrage of advice you've gotten has left you very confused and frustrated.
Is there anything about your last two months that is better? Again, I'm sorry you have had such a crappy day.