I recently got into a huge confrontation at work that turned in to a yelling match between the boss and myself (he's a big freaking five year old, and he's the worst example of an adult I could ever imagine, anyway, but that's entirely not the point) because he essentially had a tantrum, and just completely ripped me apart (degrading, demoralizing, completely patronizing, you get the idea - because he wanted things his way, and he was flat out wrong).
I'm working as a nanny, and it's this mans wife whom I actually deal with all day and who totally wears every single pair of pants in that house (the hubby is a freaking joke). I called the wife, sobbing, saying I was absolutely not okay with being treated like that when I was simply trying to do things exactly how she'd JUST told me how to do them, and she apologized, conference called hubby, made him / mediated with him while he apologized, and she begged me to reconsider giving my two weeks notice, which I told her I was prepared to do, because she loves me. And they both said I shouldn't take it personally because hubby is just a giant jerk, and I said, I'm sorry but I take people treating me like crap personally because it IS personal, and being a giant jerk isn't a good enough excuse for me having to just put up with it.
So now, not only do I need to consider what I'm going to do about my job situation - but I also realize that I SERIOUSLY need to man up when it comes to confrontation with bosses/co-workers/authority figures and not cry like a big hormonal girl (which I totally am, hello TOM) which completely devalues any opinion I have, and is entirely counterproductive to what I want.
How do you grow thicker skin, chicks What am I doing wrong? How do I fix it?