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Originally Posted by MzJuicyD
Thanks guys! I was just telling a friend about what im trying to do and he just didnt offer as much support as i was looking for.
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But all my friend had to offer was "just because you smaller doesnt mean you still cant get it!" Thats just not something I need to hear right now.
Did you try telling your friend this?
It's hard to remember that our friends and loved-ones can't read our minds. When I read a day's worth of posts here at 3FC, here is a sampling of what I see:
* I'm upset because my partner/friend/family member told me I look fat
* I'm upset because my partner/friend/family member told me I look thin enough
* I'm upset because my partner/friend/family member didn't say anything about my weight loss
* I'm upset because my partner/friend/family member said I look great now, and s/he must have meant that I looked terrible before
* I'm upset because my partner/friend/family member said I don't look as good as I can yet
* I'm upset because my partner/friend/family member said I don't need to lose weight to look good
... and on and on and on. Everyone responds differently to different feedback. Heck, most of respond differently on different days to the same feedback! We can't expect people to read our minds. We just have to say "Thanks, but here's the kind of support I really need right now ..."
Alternatively, you can stop being fretful that other people aren't giving you the "right kind" of support (whatever that is!) -- instead, support yourself the way you know you need it, and be grateful for their love and friendship, however imperfectly they express it.