I'm so sorry this is long I have a tendency once I write about soemthing I can't stop and I figure it'd be easier to get the whole story out for advice then a short version haha...maybe
So I decided to join up to a dating website and I'm really paranoid about meeting people off the net and the only way I will is if one: they don't bring up sex in the conversation. and two if I can have an actual conversation back and forth with them about everything and anything (other then sex. Don't get me wrong I love sex and enjoy a good stimulating conversation about it, but to have it in the first 5 minutes with a stranger NO WAY!)
So I ended up going on this date with this guy...(Stupid me didn't think dinner would be a bad idea for a first meet) I was also talking alot to this other guy whom I was way more interested in and he seemed completely into me (before we met) The date lasted 4 hours long and the guy I was really into kept texting me through out it, because I kind of told him about it (it's a dating website he told me about the chicks he met.) and of course I didn't pick up the text and text him back until it was over (that's plain rude and I hate when people text while your out with them doesn't matter how bad the date went.)
So then me and this other guy (the one I'm completely into) decided to meet up the next day, we just went for coffee and it wasn't long he had things to do as did I. Then the texting and the calling kind of slimmed down from there...and at first I thought he's probably just not into me (and I had deleted my profile off the site, because really if I'm into someone there is no point in me going out with other guys because they won't keep my interest.) And he had mentioned it to me as to why I deleted my account and stuff and I just told him the basic, most men on there are for sex and I don't feel that I want to be on the site right now. He seemed to agree with me because he has the same issue with some woman. Well he didn't delete his account...(Which is cool I didn't really expect him to)
He works away from home in the rigs so he's away for three weeks and home for one. Well I decided he wasn't into me so I stopped bugging him for two days I didn't even contact him only to recieve a text from him. (Now he's not the type of guy who gives compliments or anything because in his head he's not here to boast anyone's ego...) Then I was talking on the phone with him and mentioned why I stopped talking to him and that was because I figured he wasn't into me so I backed off...He said that if he wasn't then why would he continue on talking to me...Well in my head it was me ALWAYS contacting him and I figured he was just being nice.
So lets skip forward a few days ago I made a slight joke about being psychic (SP?) and I had said to him that "He's met the girl of his dreams (though he doesn't know it yet) but he's too stuborn to do anything about it because he's decided to continue on looking so int he end he doesn't get married. (he's big on getting married he's 31 and the last person in his "family" who doesn't have someone...but he's not desparet like some people get when things fall like that.) Well the next day he had deleted his account off the website and for once he had FINALLY contacted me first. I had also remade my account and decided to continue on fishing...(because I have this habit when I like someone they tend not to like me back so I wanted a plan b.) Well this woman I worked with had told me to delete my account because obviously what you said to him had triggered something...So I did.
We still talk on and off (mostly I bug him but he doesn't seemed to mind it because he's not ignoring me) well my dilema is this theres this other guy at work whom seems pretty cool to hang out with (but it might be more then just a hang out thing...) but what I don't know is with this other guy if he's really into me or what his deal really is. Because he says that he plans on working straight until xmas (family is a huge thing to him so of course he want's to be there for xmas.) and I've asked him to come with me to my work christmas party but he says he probably won't be home then, but will book off the 3rd and the 4th probably to come home and do some stuff he needs to get done...and of course in that he doesn't mention if he will see me at all or anything and part of me wonders if i'm wasting my time.
My friend told me not to go with plan b just in case because it seems like the guy likes me, I'm just so used to some who is controlling and constantly breathing down my back side that when I meet someone who is laid back and not 100 percent focused on me I tend to freak out and not get it...(I know thats an issue I'm going to have to deal with.) I was also told I should just ask him...but then I don't really want to ask one (in fear of the answer I guess, and two he might think i'm some weirdo...)
So what should I do? Just grow a pair and ask the guy what's up and if he does see something with us...or just continue on dating other people until he comes around and says something (Which if he does like me and did delete his account for my petty little half joking thing, could piss him off and ruin it...)
sorry I like lots of opinons when it comes to stuff like this, I'm weird like that I can't just go on what one person say...or even what three people say! ahaha!