HI GUYS,
NEED SOME ADVISE. I AM A MOTHER OF 2 GIRLS, AGES 11 AND 14.
THEY ARE BOTH OVERWEIGHT. I THINK IT IS MAINLY FROM THERE GENES AND A COMBINATION OF THE WAY I USE TO COOK. I HAVE HAD A WEIGHT PROBLEM ALL MY LIFE. NOW AFTER SO LONG I HAVE FINALLY BEEN SUCCESSFULL AT LOOSING 80 POUNDS, AND STILL HAVE MORE TO LOOSE. MY QUESTION IS WHAT TO DO?
THIS WEEKEND I HAD IT OUT WITH MY 14 YEAR OLD(WHICH BY THE WAY IS ONE OF THE BEST BASKETBALL PLAYERS AT HER SCHOOL). HER BLOOD PRESSURE CAME OUT A LITTLE HIGH AT A PHYSICAL AND IT SCARED ME TO DEATH. WHEN I TALK TO THEM THEY TAKE IT AS AN INSULT, AND SHE TOLD ME, MOM DON'T YOU THINK WE KNOW WE ARE OVERWEIGHT EVERYBODY AROUND TELLS US AND YOU ALSO HAVE TO TELL US !
I KNOW IT IS ANNOYING WHEN PEOPLE NAG YOU, BECAUSE I WENT THROUGH IT. WHAT IT COMES DOWN TO IS, THE ONLY WAY THEY WILL LOOSE IT'S WHEN THEY ARE GOOD AND READY.
SO HOW AM I HELPING BY REMINDING THEM OF THEIR WEIGHT PROBLEM. THE DOCTOR GETS MAD AT ME WHEN HE WEIGHS THEM. AS IF I COULD SWING MY MAGIC WAND AND GET THEM IN SHAPE. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING, I PLAY BASKETBALL WITH THEM. I USE TO ASK THEM TO WALK WITH ME THEY FIRST DID AND THEN THEY STARTED SAYING NO. NOW I JOINED THE OLDER ONE AT THE GYM I AM ATTENDING. SHE DOES NOT WANT TO WAKE UP FOR CLASSES ON THE WEEKEND AND SHE ALWAYS HAS AN EXCUSE FOR NOT GOING THERE. THE YOUNGER ONE DOES NOT LIKE ANY VEGETABLES, WHAT DO I DO FORCE IT DOWN HER THROAT. MAYBE I SEEM LIKE WHIMP BUT I FEEL THAT FORCING IS NOT THE ANSWER. BUT TALKING SEEMS NOT TO BE THE ANSWER EITHER. WHAT IS THE ANSWER. I WAS READING THESE OTHER THREADS OF YOUNG WOMEN TALKING ABOUT THERE MOTHER, AND HOW UNCOMFORTABLE THEY FELT AROUND THEM BECAUSE THE MOTHERS WOULD MENTION THEIR WEIGHT.
I DON'T WANT TO HURT THEM, THEY ARE EVERYTHING TO ME. BUT HOW CAN I HELP THEM. I AM ALREADY COOKING HEALTHY FOR A YEAR AND A HALF. I DON'T WANT TO BE THERE ENEMY BUT I DON'T WANT THEM TO GET SICK DUE TO THERE WEIGHT. APPRECIATE ANY ADVISE.
FRUSTRATED MOM.