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Originally Posted by deelee10
Hi. Just joined a few days ago.In my introduction I mentioned that I'm 56 and dealing with menopause/thyroid/prediabetes and empty nest. I am not at my all time high wt but weigh a lot more than I did when I delivered "the creatures that have had the nerve to grow up and leave my nest. My husband is still around but only weighs about 10-15 lbs. more than when we got married and is getting on my nerves." I have had some luck with bioidentical hormone treatment in the last year but doc is changing things around and I'm not doing as well with the mood and weight loss part now. I regained in 2 weeks the 9 lbs that I spent 3 -4 months losing. The empty nest thing is killing me. I have 2 sons. The youngest is a senior in college and received a dream job offer in another state for when he graduates. I'm very happy for him. My oldest is 25, working and having fun and really doesn't want to share many details about his life with us. I get it...but I don't like it! I found comfort in peanut M&Ms on Friday night and then did a whole bag of milkchocolate Dove Promises (wrapped in foil with nice little sayings inside - like I need that to buy them!) on Saturday night. I have no energy and of course have just gained another couple of lbs .Help!
Hi DeeDee! Glad you have joined us! It is a real change when the kids leave home, isn't it? The house seems so quiet. We were lucky in that we had 4 and they were like two sets with several years in between so nest emptied a little at a time. My boys left soonest...to get married and no way were they old enough to marry (19)...and that really hurt. I had hoped to have them around a few more years. The girls took longer. But by the time they all left I actually was ready...later I felt sad about it ...but at the time I was worn out from raising kids for almost 30 years. I have always had my own interests outside my family and have a very close relationship with my dh so that helped I'm sure. And then when the grandchildren start coming that helps too.
What is this bioidentical hormone treatment? Never heard of that. I don't like to take hormones (even though I took Premarin for about 18 years!) because they affect so many things in our bodies including our moods esp if they are not quite in balance. Maybe that is partly what is affecting your acceptance of the empty nest and even your dh?
I felt great on Premarin and have often wished I could take it again because of my hot flashes...but I just think it is not safe so I won't. But once I stopped it I was hit SO hard with the hot flashes! It was terrible! They gradually got easier with Estroven supplement but still pretty bad...until I found iCool. At least it's a little easier now.
I know what you mean about turning to food...and I love my sweets too esp if eating for emotional reasons. But the sweets will cause you to feel tired...a lift and then crash..they are NOT your friend but of course you know that..I can't give advice about that because I struggle with overeating and eating wrong way too much myself. Do good for a few days, then get off track...but I keep trying. You keep trying too...you need to take care of your body as it's the only one you will get on this earth and you are still young so need it to last a long time!
I hope your doctor will get the hormone thing worked out soon. This forum is a good place to get support and friendship too.