Hi guys. I have had this thought bothering me for some time and would like some perspective.
I have a best friend I've known since middle school. She is a social butterfly and can get along with virtually anyone. She is also very, very slim. She's never weighed more than 115 --give or take-- in her entire life and would often step on my scale in my room, sometimes complaining about any upward shift in her weight. She's short, so her weight is perfectly healthy. She has called herself fat. I, on the other hand, have never known a skinny day in my life and weigh close to 250.
I understand everyone is on their own path. Her comments about her own weight are not what trouble me.
Here is my problem: she knows I'm trying to lose weight. I try not to discuss my efforts with her all that much because I know it can be tiresome. I would rather talk to someone who could relate. So I rarely mention it since she's supposedly aware---and the sad thing is-- I almost have to wonder if she even remembers. Ideally I would prefer not to have to mention it at all but here's the reason I have to sometimes remind her: she's ALWAYS, always offering me junk food. And she acts disappointed if I don't divulge in her offerings. I am very polite about it and just say "oh I'm full, or no thank you" and it's becoming a bit annoying after a while quite honestly. When I decline politely she pouts. I just don't get it. She's a sharp person and is well aware of her surroundings, having to have taken care of herself since she was very young because of family issues and is currently working hard to achieve manager-status at her job. So she's not the type of person you would expect to be oblivious to her actions. I really don't think she's trying to sabotage me, I think she's just a thin person who doesn't understand how hard it is to try to lose a substantial amount of weight and that eating even one bad food will just derail the whole thing. She's knows me. I've told her I'm an all-or-nothing type personality.
Can anyone relate to this in any way with a friend or family member?
Thank you all for reading my little rant, I hope I didn't come off as annoying.. I'm just confused, lol.