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Originally Posted by Shmead
The only way to break any bad habit/change any bad lifestyle is to recognize that you have control over it. Once you've recognized that you have control over it, it's hard not to transfer that to other people--to see that they have control, as well.
Most people manage to compartmentalize this--I know I have control, I can do this/ I am not in their head, I do not know what their challenges are--but I understand why some people don't. Accepting that other people may not be able to change might make you lose faith in your own ability. And that faith is crucial to success.
Shmead.
I am glad you posted this. Its not about superiority, or hate. Its about a firm dogma/faith/philosophy that you are generalizing to everyone. Just like Christians believe that you won't go to heaven if you don't accept Christ, people who have adopted the "control" philosophy believe that obese people may still be struggling and failing to work on their control/addiction issues.
When I see an obese person in McDonald's I think they have:
a) either lost control temporarily/permanently and need help
or
b)willfully refuse to exercise control over their eating/health habits.
Do I hate them or feel superior? No. Sometimes I feel sad, and as a person still on the weight loss journey I am also reminded of the fact that I still struggle and will always struggle, yet I am chosing to fight the addiction and not pretend that I have no control, or willfully surrender control.
I guess that's why you lost such a tremendous amount of weight Shmead.
In order to have lost 130 pounds you must have had to develop that "You have control" philosophy Its a very good way of working up to the discipline of choosing exercise and healthy foods over other options.