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Originally Posted by vmo1
Thank you all so much for the kind words. I'm getting a second vet's opinion, I want a better idea of what her quality of life is right now. They said she isn't in pain so I'm not really clear why it's surgery or putting her to sleep. I'm just so worried of making the wrong decision...It's cruel that we have to make that decision for our pets. If it were a person we wouldn't be allowed to make it, but we can with pets. Doesn't seem right
I feel for you so much! Through the years my family has had many pets and sometimes the "end" is not so clear and there is guilt "Did I let them suffer??" or "Did I end things too soon??" With one of my old kitties I let a vet talk me into thousands of dollars worth of tests when it was clear the poor thing would not make it long. She was 13 and I thought I'd have her longer. But, I loved her and we had a great 13 years together.
She's your kitty - go with your gut feeling. Remember that animals do not know they will die (sorry if that seems obvious but in times of pain it may bear repeating). My close close friend was grieving terribly over her dog (who was only 3 when she got cancer). She did put her down but was getting to the point where she couldn't sleep at night she felt so guilty! In my view, she did her best and she did the right thing. Her pet did not have to needlessly suffer the end stage.
So, I'm sending you big hugs
as a sister animal-lover. They're in our lives a while and it hurts when they leave BUT our lives are so much better for their friendship.