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Originally Posted by FreeBird3
Thanks for the support! I really thought folks were going to tear me apart for wishing a former fat person would become fat again due to my own insecurities.
In terms of using the mentality of competiting with Chrissy (a.k.a the current woman I am comparing myself against on a physical appearence basis), isn't it actually an unhealthy mind-set to lose the weight in order to get her jealous? I don't know if I am stating this clearly on the message board, but it seems like I would be (more) mentally unheathly if I selected a particular person and said "Okay, my goal is to get as small, if not smaller, than HER!''. There is something unhealthy about it, don't you think? It would most likely make me lose the weight, but I think it wouldn't make me actually break the bad mental cycle of constantly comparing myself to Chrissy or whomever. You see, that's the thing....I want to end the cycle of being fixated on a particular person in terms of using that person as some sort of baseline of how I should look.
Again, I don't know if I'm making any clear sense, but I do appreciate you ladies telling me that what I'm feeling is natural and human.
I take relief in knowing that you seek to change this overpowering obsession. If you recognize (and you do) it is an obstacle to your own success, then you can address it. You obviously are a person seeking wisdom in a situation you have observed is destroying your chance at success. The only person who can truly benefit from such recognition is YOU. Focus on a healthier you and not how it affects anyone else and you will be able to improve spiritually (this is a spiritual issue!), mentally, AND physically. Your anger is hurting you far more than anyone else. And from experience I can tell you that once you get a handle on this, you become calmer and more at peace with the world around you.
Jealousy is explained like this in the book of James:
You want what you don’t have, so you scheme and manipulate to get it. You want what others have, but you can’t get it, so you fight and wage war to take it away from them.
So reclaim all control my friend. Seek out all possible ways to slay this monster! Blessings!