Yeah Terri, you got it right. Pretty sucky huh? She is friends with both of us, so I think she figures it is fine. But she used to do a lot of underhanded things because all 3 of us are friends. She would tell the boy "gee I think squeak should come here for new years" (which was 5 hrs away and I had to work new years eve and on the 2nd). I had already told her no. She thought telling him to ask me, would mean I would change my mind and say yes. She would do the same thing with me to get him to do what she wanted. She finally figured out that it wasn't a good idea. We would talk, she would then get yelled at by me. One thing that stuck with me was once I told her that even if I did tell him what she wanted, it would not mean he would automatically do it. She replied "You have a lot more influence over him then you think you do". It was only then (after a year and a half of this) that I figured out that she may be jealous. (I am a little slow sometimes, plus the idea that anyone would be jealous of ME seemed odd)
Which is part of why I am probably not telling her I am there until the Saturday night I am there or before I leave the next morning. I heard back from the boy. He knows I wasn't sure about it, which is why he is letting me decide. He knew before I even had to tell him. He's such a smart boy
No more rambling about bad things. From now on I will only bore you all with the planning details.
PS - Kelly - babble all ya want