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Originally Posted by nitestar
The good part is, I am still losing weight and he'll still be a jerk. Unfortunately, he'll also still be my boss. Have any of you ever dealt with this type of comments? How did you handle it?
Yes one of my bosses used to come right out and say such things. "You could be doing much better careerwise if you lost weight." "You would have a man if you lost weight." I ignored him and eventually left the firm.
I think his inability to be tactful was honestly a desire to have a hot woman in the space. First, hiring a fatty at a low rate of pay and then getting her to lose weight and be hot - increased his investment. I wasn't that fat and I had several clients who had a crush on me. That is why they stayed with the firm. If I was MORE hot, I would have even more clients. He hired a hot secretary and that did bring in clients. He paid her 18K per year.
It was a better reflection on him with other jerk men, if he had a hot associate tagging behind him. He could infer he was banging me or heck he could even try it.
I ignored him and left the firm. I kept the weight on out of spite and distancing. Right before leaving he gave me a 10 K raise and told me the condition was "loyalty" - yup I was out of there. When I left I lost weight.
He was also a serial weight basher. 3 former and or current employees had the weight loss surgery.
As an aside, I think reasonably you could at least suggest that his comments are sexual harassment. You don't have to have an air tight case, but his notice of your body and comments to that effect are at the least inappropriate and if viewed in the right light, a large problem. Be sure to google information on sexual harassment and leave it on a printer or your desk where he can see it. You don't have to come right out and tell him it is... just start researching lawyers etc. and making sure he sees it.