It would be easier to just bang my head against a wall than admit, truly, why I do this to myself!
I have been a binge eater for decades. I have been in therapy for it for years. I am on binge-free day 19 (again!) and feel like the person that sabotages me the most is ME!
I blame it on so many other things - my messed up menstral cycle, the antibiotics I am on right now, my blood thinners, and more. If I cannot find a reason inside myself, then I start blaming other people for sabotaging me - like my mom, my ex husband or my screaming kids.
My girlfriend asked me to do a list of why my new boyfriend likes me, from my point of view. I found it way easier to list all the negative reasons he might be interested in me than to write what might be positive about me to like.
Negatives:
He knows I have money (or will inherit)
He just wants a mom for his daughter
He just wants sex
He is really a freaky-creepy guy
His limp makes other people run away so he is just happy to have someone interested at all
He has many women and I am just one more
He wants something from me and I don’t yet know what it is
Even when I wrote the positive ones, I dont necessarily believe them.
And to make matters worse today - I went and engaged my exhusband in a pointless, devolving dialogue about our kids and visitation. I could have just left well-enough alone (although it means he 'wins' again). Instead I replied and we are now spiralling...and I fear I am spiraling with it ...
In the last 15 months, I have lost 75 lbs. In the last 3 years I have lost 140lbs total. I am terrified of binging my way back !
I appreciate that you ladies pour your heart and soul onto this website... It makes me know I am not alone...
Just really needed to vent this out there... For what it is worth, here is my positive list:
My smile is apparently pretty
My eyes are apparently beautiful
Apparently guys like my shoulders and butt
My dedication to my family, my life, my passions
I'm smart enough to be interesting
I'm positive most of the time
I'm financially "stable"
I make sound decisions usually
I do have passion about things
I am trying to improve myself constantly
I am a caring person
I am fun to be around
I am not too girlie
I like adventure and to try new things
I am willing to put effort into things and really try
I try not to judge or have preconceived notions
I am loveable and worthy of someone elses love…and am willing to accept it (I am guessing this is the bottom line right!?!?)
Thank you for listening to me....and I WILL NOT binge tonight... I desperately need to get to day 20, 21, 22, .....