I just want to add I am sorry that your mom is not in the picture. that does make it harder. your elders are tying to make up for it by showering you with love and the best way they know is through food. tell them you would rather have the money!!
I know my kids would. you said dad is like a food natzi but cdoes he talk to you and let you know how proud of you he is?? that just may have to be a conversation you must start. let him know how much you love him and how glad he is your fater. but then say Dad i do have a proble though. i feel that i am unhealthy. i have a hard time keeping up in gym, and get out of breath too much just ewalking (see play on his concernes for your health not you looks) I know i need to get rid of some of this fat or i m going to become sick and have bad knees, and have heart disease(againplaying on his concern for you) there is a problem with kids developing diabeties and i am afraid that i am going to get that if i do not lose some of this weight. (again hitting the sore spot, no parent want to see thier kid sick) I know ou love me and want to see what is best for me, i think i need to get rid of some of this weight before it is too late. then tell him that you are being realsitic and do not want tog et skinney that those girls look ssick and are unhealthy but you just want to get down to a reasonable weight. (a big parent fear is anorexia or bolemia)so lettinghim know where your goals are would help relieve that fear.
Is there any way that your dad can cook less? tell him that you donot want to be heavy all your life, and that your age now you are feeling the effects. if that does not help there is a list of over 40 diseases that are very scarry that are directly caused by obesity. you canshow him that and it should help him realise that youare doing this not just to look good and have boyfriends (that may be part of his problem) but to be healthy for your life time.
he is afraid of loosing you to a boy, you are after all daddy's little girl!!
if nothing else works send him my way i can talk to him!!!
Ii hope this helps pleas do post more often many of us arelike mother hens and we will worry if we do nto see much of you. I still worry about a yougn lady in the uckraine that psoted when i got on 2 years ago. she was only 16 and had a very difficult weight problem. I do think o fher often and pray that she is finding help and not givig up on this.
Jenniffer do you remember her?? Danielle i think her name was. she had problems finding even clothes that fit her as they do not have stuff like that where she lived. I do hope and pray every time some one new gets on here that it is her in a new name.