Hi...
My 60-65 yo step-MIL had bariatric surgery about 2 years ago. It was either a sudden decision or they waited to tell us until a week before the surgery. I don't know the details of weight or surgery.
My husband's family is very conflict-avoidant...many people in the family have passed away due to addiction issues (including my husband's mother) and nobody talks about it. The zinger is, they are are all mental health professionals and she waived the pre and post surgery counseling.
SHE LOOKED SO GOOD THIS SPRING. WOOOW.
The problem? She's now eating more than I am (I'm consistently losing weight on the south beach diet)...like, I was speechless as we ate dinner last week and I had a chicken breast & vegs and she had rolls and potatoes and dark meat and no vegs... and then, 2 hours later, she pulled out pretzels, and cut a brick of kraft cheese (is that a 8 oz brick?) the long way and ate it whole like a banana. The rest of us (5 people) ate a 2 pound box of strawberries and split a few sugarfree russell stover chocolates that she offered us (and she had a few of those as well). She's only 5' tall and can't fit into a size 16 jacket that is too big for me (and I'm 5'6 and 222).
My bottom line...this lady has been my husband's other mother for 25 years, he lost his mother 20 years ago, and if he loses this one (especially due to a destructive addiction) it will be really hard on him. And I know there's really nothing I can do to get her to change...
I am hoping that she will comment on my weight loss...it would be my one chance to say something to her about how easy compliance with the South Beach Diet is. Both she and my FIL are mental health practitioners. My husband and I are ministers, and they are not particularly 'religious' so it is a challenge for me to compel them to change their dysfunctions (believe it or not, this isn't their only one .... )
any suggestions?