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Originally Posted by kaplods
I think when close family decides not to send a gift or sends an obviously second-rate gift for a second marriage (or any marriage), it sends a huge message of disapproval. If you don't want the message to be "I hate your guts, and your second wife, too. You're a loser for not staying married to your first wife, and your new wife is a loser for marrying you," I would give a nice gift. A nice gift says "I hope you and your new wife are very happy together," which is the message I hope you would want to send.
I had two aunts who was always tallying the value of gifts they received in comparison to others in the family, and it was a nightmare. One felt that her Christmas gifts should be bigger, because she didn't have kids, and the money that would have spent on her hypothetical children should have been spent on her, instead.
My husband and I received many gifts that we had no idea (and no care) as to what the giver spent (and personally I preferred it that way). Some of the cheapest gifts were the nicest (when it was obviously the person took the time to make the gift special and meaningful to us).
Very well put kaplods, just what I was thinking but too inarticulate to put it into words! LOL!
And your aunts sound insane! LOL! Obviously they have never heard it is better to give than recieve!
Also I agree it doesn't have to be an expensive gift to mean something it is the thought behind it. Sometimes the simplest gift is the most cherished.