Yes that's is what I want to do, and it is so hard.
Starting over this week after months of eating
and eating and gaining.
I read something a book that motivated me, maybe
I can post it tomorrow. Actually, I feel my motivation
"should be" to take care of me... to feel good about me,
to be able to bend over and tie my shoes. Somehow
that has not been enough motivation.
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I've started over and over and failed and failed, I wonder
what will make this time any different?
~ anne

Hey changing-anne,

Do you want to change your relationship with food? Basically, change the way you live as regards to your eating habits? 'Cause that's what will make it different this time!

Many folks here on 3FC have successfully made this happen, even though it is a struggle. Tell us more about yourself...

Jay

Yes! If I'm going to be a success this time, I'm going
to have to change my relationship with food. Thank you
Jay for saying that.

I know it will take time... and sometimes I'm sure I
just plain won't want to do it... *sigh*

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My husband and I have 3 daughters and 3 grandchildren.
Married forever to a great guy... kind and supportive.
Lots to be thankful for. Enjoy photography & painting &
watching old movies.

I'm looking forward to being able to bend over and tie
my shoes again, and walk up stairs without feeling like
I will topple over!

~ anne

What kind of physical activities do you enjoy? Sometimes that can help, although mostly it's the food.

I joined a YMCA when I "got serious" about weight loss. I found many folks there in my situation, namely obese and trying to get healthy--so I didn't feel awkward about it. Do you have a Y around?

That was awhile back, and now I belong to a different gym. But I also go for a walk just about every day. I'm fortunate to live in a climate where I don't face snow and ice, but walking in a mall is good, too, if you can stay away from the foot court.

I see you've posted about a book you're reading. I'm not familiar with that. I am a calorie counter myself.

Jay

changing-Anne Welcome and good luck! I have failed, too many times but just got tired of it all, everything that goes along with being obese, overweight, fat ...whatever you want to call it. You have taken the first step by posting here. I wish you success.

Here I am.. It's July, 2014. Yikes, and I'm still struggling, but I'm so glad I found my old posts.. and it just reminds me how much help I need. - g.Anne

This is a quote fro the book "Twelve Steps for Overeaters":

Some of us "came to" before we came to believe. We "came to" the fact that we were killing ourselves with food and hurting the people we loved with our negative emotions. "Coming to" can happen in a quick flash of insight. Coming to believe may take longer.

In many cases, even those of us who considered ourselves committed to a religious faith have decided that we were agnostic in applying that faith, since we continued to overeat compulsively. We thought we believed in God, but we didn't apply the belief to the problem that was destroying us.

I find it so interesting that these words motivated me, in fact they touched me deeply An OA buddy and I have been reading this book together. The book is not approved OA literature, but it is so well-written and goes right to the point.

When I was asking my Heavenly Father to help me, and please point me in the right direction... I remembered that I had been a member of 3fatchicks years ago, so I came to see if I was still a member. I am so grateful that I could start right in where I left off! Thank you 3fatchicks for being here ... and providing me and so many others a soft place to land.

Welcome back Anne! this forum really helped me a lot! I decided to change my life and i changed my eating habits greatly. It was the best thing i ever did! yes it was hard, i am still cheating;-) But i know what i want - the body i used to have - and i am going straight to my goal! Stay motivated and strong! Good luck hon!

changing anne-- I have starts and stops too. Welcome to the 50 plus forum. The ladies here "get it". We are no longer in our 20's, 30's or 40's. Those weight challenges have changed .
I came to the realization that it was NOW to time to get my eating under control.
I hit rock bottom when I was mean to another women because I was jealous of her. She stayed healthy and slim over the 25 years I knew her, while I got fat. I was suprised at how creepy I behaved due to my paranoia from being fat. That was when I could no longer recognize myself inside and outside. It was time to change!

Lucinda, I can recognize myself in your confession.

I think we all have our struggles with food. I have been battling the same 40 pounds most of my adult life. When my kids were younger, I measured and portion controlled what I ate. But then relaxed, and the 40 pounds came creeping back anyway. What has changed for me is that I have joint and pain issues. I also have high blood pressure, and cholesterol issues. I think quite a bit of that could be addressed ifI just lose the extra weight