My office/meeting rooms (can't really call it a studio because it's tiny and I don't shoot here) have been in the same building for several years. Most of the people in the building have been here as long or longer than I have and we all know each other and tend to socialize back and forth between offices when things are slow.
Today a group of us were sitting on the steps outside chatting and one of the women who weighs about what I did when I first started out (240+) was talking about a diet she was on and how tough it was becoming for her. I don't even know what diet she was doing, but it was something really restrictive and between Halloween just passing and the gearing up of holiday foods, she was feeling pretty down.
So I mentioned that I found that if I kept up with my healthy snacking, that I tended to do better at not being tempted by the stuff that gets brought in, and that I found that being *too* restrictive was counter productive.
She turned to me and said (not meanly, but in a kind of "what do you know" sort of tone): "Well, that's all well and fine, but you don't know what it's like. You eat all the time and still wear cute clothes. And you're always going to the gym and working out and talking about running in races and things. You just don't know how hard that is for me."
She went on to say that so many people thought it was so easy and always offered her advice and that she was just so tired of "skinny people" trying to "help" her when they obviously had no idea.
I just sat there with a stunned look on my face. I wasn't upset at her at all - she was honestly suffering and I could tell she was about to cry and wasn't being mean or anything. I just couldn't (still can't) reconcile her words with *ME*. Skinny? What? Eat all the time? Huh?
The other women in the group recovered faster and one of them started laughing. We all sort of realized at one time that this particular woman had only been with her company for a little over 8 months.
SHE NEVER KNEW ME WHEN I WAS FAT.
*thud*
I'm sure there are a bunch of women here who can relate. I still can't get over the surrealness of it.
Of course one of the other women explained ... and I actually did find a photo of myself from about 3 Christmases ago where I was at or near my highest weight. We actually wound up having a really good conversation about dieting vs. lifestyle and I hope she comes and visits 3FC - I gave her the link.
But wow. I'm still sorta shell shocked.
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