This is going to be kinda long so sorry!
I have an issue that really bothers me. As some people may know by reading my posts, I was always skinny, my whole life. Within the last three years, I have gained 60 pounds. Not bad in 3 years, but since I have such a tiny frame, it really shows. Well, I vent to my boyfriend all the time about how I'm not happy, and how I really want to get serious about losing weight. So far, I have gone to the gym everyday that I planned on going, and I have tried to watch what I eat as much as I can. I really am trying and I'm ready to get back to my old self. The only thing is my boyfriend. Now, dont get me wrong, I love him to death, I wouldnt replace him regardless. But, it just doesnt seem that he supports me very much.
He's in charge of paying the gym bill. I constantly have to remind him to give me money so I can pay it. Then when I mention it, he makes it seem like its a huge deal and he only will give me partial payment, even though he knows I need to pay it in full to keep going. My problem is this, I honestly think he doesnt want to pay the gym bill because he doesnt want me to lose weight. I cannot afford to pay the whole entire thing on my own. If it were just me, I would be able to. I have asked the gym if I could get taken off but since we are in a contract, I have to wait until the contract is over. I know it seems that I am thinking way to into this, but I honestly think he does that. He has made comments before about "how he loves me the way I am" and he doesnt think I need to lose weight. He used to hate when we first started dating that guys would check me out, or wave to me while we were in the car, and since I've gained weight, that really doesnt happen anymore and I think he enjoys the fact that he knows no other guys are looking at me.
Another problem that I seem to have is the fact that he claims he wants to lose weight also (hes not so much overweight, he has a bigger build and he just wants to tone up) and hes always complaining about how he wants to do it so bad. The thing is, is when I complain about my weight or have a breakdown all he says is "ok I'll help you ok dont cry, its ok" but when he complains its like the whole world has to stop so I can listen to him. He has the worst eating habits ever, and he says he wants to get to the gym and workout but he has yet to go. Ive gone all last week and 2 days this week which I have planned (I go every Mon/Wed/Fri) and am doing a great job for myself. I just feel he isnt as motivated as I am and I feel that I am going to fall into his routine of not going and getting back to my old eating habits because I have NO support. He says he supports me but I honestly dont think he does. I really need a good support system so I dont fall into habits and I would really like someone to do what Ive been doing so we can do it together but I dont have anybody.
So my question to everybody is, what would you do in my position? Would you just keep trekking on as Ive been doing and ignore him and try to stay strong, or would you say something about how I want him to get as motivated as me and kick his *** into shape?