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Originally Posted by nil
Yeah, that question (and similar ones) are problematic at best. If an average person gains a significant amount of fat and asks 'Do I look more or less attractive?' to their partner, pretty much only fat fetishists could answer 'yes' truthfully. And that would be weird.
Not unheard of, though. They are out there, and you'd never guess which ones they are. LOL
I am sorry your feelings got hurt, HuskyHusker. I've been in that situation, too, and like you, I walked right into it, thinking I would get some reassurance. I did not. I got a sidestepping sort of tangent about how there's a difference between overweight and obese, but that he definitely prefers not to be with an "anorexic chick." As though one of those unfortunate people with a legitimate eating disorder have anything to do with people like him and me, who ate too much and didn't exercise enough! (I can't stand it when people accuse slender women of being 'anorexic' just to pander to people who bring their weight problem on themselves.)
The only thing I can say is that you can't worry about what he thinks of your body. I suspect, if he's anything like most decent men I've met, that he's more attracted to your confidence in yourself (and that includes your appearance). If that's the case, you need only get to where YOU feel confident and attractive and to his eyes, you will be the hottest thing alive.
OR, you'll end up dumping him and landing somebody more supportive. Whatever works.
Good luck!