YES, KAPLODS ~ I thought the exact same thing as you; THANK YOU for being so honest and forthright. When we are young, we want to believe the best of everyone. If someone throws a fit because you are coming to visit him, then he is hiding something from you. He may have a girlfriend, or he may even have a wife and family!
When I was sixteen, I met a man who did exactly that. He came to where I lived, but someone wrote me a letter explaining that he had a wife and child at home, AND that he was a foreigner, who just wanted to find someone to use, so that he could get into the country. I DUMPED HIM LIKE A HOT POTATO ... IMMEDIATELY!!!
I'm sorry honey ~ but honestly, his story is a bunch of bunk. For those of us who are much older and more experienced, we see it right away! He doesn't want you to come becuz he's hiding something from you. Don't waste your time or money on this person. There are way too many wonderful fish in the sea to waste your time on an 'EEL' like him ...
Keep looking sweetie, you will find a good fella who will respect you, adore you, and treat you right! Don't settle for anything less than that; becuz you are worth it!
ROSEBUD