A few months ago my son, then 14 was avoiding one of his friends. He would send me text messages to call him and say he had to come home. When I asked him about it he told me he didn't want to hurt my feelings. Apparently some of his friends would make comments to him about how fat I was and it hurt him. WOW! It never occurred to me that boys would have to deal with this. Even worse it never occurred to me that other people looked at me and the fat overrode everything else. I was always well dressed. I always had all of the kids over at my house and joked with them, fed them, drove them. Amazing how we can fool ourselves. I told him not to worry about me I was happy with myself... Nonsense. I was too embarrassed to share this story with my husband, why because it highlighted my weight and because I have always done everything I could to be a good mother and clearly i had let them down in this regard.
You would think that would have been my aha moment but sadly it wasn't. I still feel incredibly guilty thinking about the unnecessary issues that I have caused my children to face.