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I read an article about this the other day ......This lady swears that what made a difference for her (weightloss) was "lotion therapy".... She said that being that "intimate" and caring with her body, even though she was rather unhappy with its shape, made her come to value it more, which led to her wanting to treat it better, and take care of it.
I think about how those times I've lost weight, what was going on other than the weightloss. Often times it's been a new love relationship, which usually involves LOTS of attention to one's body in a very pleasurable , sensual, and intimate way >> into Total Body Self Awareness. I think about how the status of my 'intimate' relationship with my parter these days is very stale in comparison to what it once was -- and, is that "the chicken or the egg" to my condition of being uncomfortably overweight? Either way, I blame my weight. But in order to change it, it's difficult to be motivated inside when there's no outside fire going on. So, next option : I think about innocent little crushes I get from time to time, totally fantasy based, just to get motivated, but then I realize they're only crushes, never to be acted on, and then I lose motivation. I hate the fact that I project my Self Love onto others that way, but it must be just human nature. I read an article about this the other day ......This lady swears that what made a difference for her (weightloss) was "lotion therapy".... She said that being that "intimate" and caring with her body, even though she was rather unhappy with its shape, made her come to value it more, which led to her wanting to treat it better, and take care of it.
I know that in my most fit years (about 10 years ago) I had several crushes sizzling on the burner (when I was single), and those crushes pushed me to ride harder and harder up the hills, and I seemed to enjoy a lot of success as a result. But now it's a totally different life I live...inertia at it's most stagnant. I know those crushes have been the push to get the ball rolling before, but I just don't know about it anymore.
Iit's not always easy learning to be self loving, and create a fire in ones
life, entirely from within. Not easy at all. But necessary. I sometimes think it's okay to dream up crushes on somebody I know I'll never really get to know, but with whom my life crosses paths with, so I can gauge my progress on their response to seeing me looking more and more attractive as I lose weight. Just a glance, a moment of giddiness, those innocent little things we pick up, that let us know we have affect on others.
How about you?