It came down to me, to being sick and tired of being sick and tired all the time. I was tired of the working my butt off to lose 1 pound and then gaining 2 on a bad day. I could lose weight and I did - 25 lbs, 50 lbs, and 75 lbs...but I always gained it back. I could not maintain without absolutely starving myself and working my butt off at the gym for crazy amounts of time. Finally, I got to my highest weight of 288 lbs...and my Mother had a heart attack. She was smaller than I and had a heart attack at age 59 which is a bad sign (women don't usually have them til around 65 years of age on average so she had one sooner than most women....). I found out that I was now twice as likely to have a heart attack myself and that freaked me out. That was the final straw and seeing a relative as well who had the surgery have major success was another impetus for having surgery.
I read and read and read. I chose my surgeon and facility carefully. Then I knew I was in good hands...and generally I was pretty healthy so I figured that the chances of me having any major complications were relatively small. I wasn't a "heavyweight". I didn't have blood or clotting issues. I didn't have heart or breathing issues. And I picked a great surgeon/facility. That was enough to help put my mind at ease.
Mind you I still freaked out before hand..especially the day before since I'd never been in a hospital before much less have surgery!!!
I put myself in a positive frame of mind before surgery. Spent two months working my butt off to lose weight (lost 32 lbs before surgery) and then after surgery, again made a resolution to work hard and not complain about whatever I am dealt with after surgery.
Your can read about my surgery and my journey there at
http://home.cogeco.ca/~diminishingdawn
I felt that all the reading I did made me major prepared for this surgery. I felt confident in my decision. Perhaps you need to do more research and then click! One day you might decide it is for you.
Dawn